{"id":274,"date":"2009-06-25T23:25:57","date_gmt":"2009-06-25T21:25:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ilknuryilmaz.com\/?p=274"},"modified":"2009-06-25T23:25:57","modified_gmt":"2009-06-25T21:25:57","slug":"siz-de-bir-mukemmeliyetci-misiniz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ilknuryilmaz.com\/siz-de-bir-mukemmeliyetci-misiniz\/","title":{"rendered":"Siz de bir &#8220;m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i&#8221; misiniz?"},"content":{"rendered":"<ul style=\"margin-top: 0cm;\" type=\"disc\">\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z sizi yeterince tatmin etmiyor mu? <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Bitirilmesi gereken i\u015flerinizi, \u201cEn iyisini yapmal\u0131y\u0131m\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi ile hep geciktiriyor musunuz?<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Kendinizi s\u00fcrekli ele\u015ftiriyor, hep olumsuz taraflar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 m\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyorsunuz?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo2;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">O halde siz de bir <strong style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\">\u201cm\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i\u201d<\/strong> olabilirsiniz. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015filer zor ve yakalanmas\u0131 \u00e7ok g\u00fc\u00e7 hedefler pe\u015finde ko\u015far ve en ufak bir hatay\u0131 ne kendilerinde ne de ba\u015fkalar\u0131nda kabul eder, tam tersine bunu genel bir ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr.\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt;\"><strong style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 biri olmak i\u00e7in m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik gerekli midir?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Ba\u015far\u0131 i\u00e7in m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin gerekli oldu\u011funa dair yayg\u0131n bir yanl\u0131\u015f inan\u0131\u015f vard\u0131r. Oysa, yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar bunun tam tersini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor, yani m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i tutumlar ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131 g\u00f6lgeliyor! <strong style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\">\u201cBa\u015far\u0131 odakl\u0131\u201d<\/strong> ki\u015filer, ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirilebilir hedeflere odaklan\u0131r ve o hedefe ula\u015f\u0131rken ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 s\u00fcrecin de keyfini \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r. Buna kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015filer, <strong style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\">\u201ckusursuzu\u201d<\/strong> ba\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131nda mutlu olur, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131na, t\u00f6kezlemelerine tahamm\u00fcl edemez ve b\u00f6yle durumlarda kendi de\u011ferlerini sorgulamaya ba\u015flar. Ayn\u0131 zamanda, \u00e7evrelerinde bulunanlar\u0131n da en ufak hatalar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 toleranslar\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in, s\u0131kl\u0131kla \u201cEn iyisini ben yapar\u0131m, ba\u015fkalar\u0131na g\u00fcvenmiyorum\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesiyle i\u015flerinin tek yetkili ki\u015fisi olmay\u0131 tercih ederler. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015filer ele\u015ftiriye de a\u00e7\u0131k de\u011fildir, zira ele\u015ftiriyi kendi ki\u015filiklerine mal eder ve bu y\u00fczden hemen savunmac\u0131 ve kat\u0131 bir tutum sergiler. Oysa, ba\u015far\u0131 odakl\u0131 ki\u015filer ele\u015ftiriyi kendi geli\u015fimleri i\u00e7in bir f\u0131rsat kabul eder ve kendi hatalar\u0131ndan da olumlu dersler \u00e7\u0131kararak yoluna devam eder.<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt;\"><strong style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin nedenleri<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">\u015eimdiye kadar yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin temelinde <strong style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\">ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k ve reddedilme korkusu<\/strong> (bu, \u00f6zellikle \u00e7ocukluk ve ergenlik d\u00f6nemlerinde ailenin yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131na ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak geli\u015fir), <strong style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\">\u00f6zg\u00fcven sorunlar\u0131<\/strong> ve <strong style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\">siyah ya da beyaz \u015feklinde \u201ckat\u0131\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme tarz\u0131<\/strong>n\u0131n oldu\u011funu g\u00f6steriyor.\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">E\u011fer siz de kendinizi bir m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i olarak tan\u0131ml\u0131yorsan\u0131z, bu y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irmeniz faydal\u0131 olacakt\u0131r, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu tarz bir e\u011filim size yarardan \u00e7ok <strong style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\">zarar<\/strong> getirebilir. Bu ki\u015filik profilindeki ki\u015filerin ya\u015famlar\u0131n\u0131n bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnde ya da genelinde a\u015fa\u011f\u0131daki psikolojik sorunlar\u0131 ya\u015fama olas\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131 hayli y\u00fcksektir:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"margin-top: 0cm;\" type=\"disc\">\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Depresyon <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Su\u00e7luluk duygusu<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">\u00d6zg\u00fcven azl\u0131\u011f\u0131<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Motivasyon d\u00fc\u015f\u00fckl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Obsesif kompulsif davran\u0131\u015flar sergileme<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Yeme bozukluklar\u0131<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Uyku bozukluklar\u0131<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Yorgunluk, bitkinlik<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo1;\"><strong style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011finizi nas\u0131l hafifletebilirsiniz?<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"margin-top: 0cm;\" type=\"disc\">\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo3;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Bir s\u00fcre sadece g\u00f6zlem yap\u0131n; olaylara verdi\u011finiz tepkilere, kendinizle ilgili beklentilerinize, genel duygusal durumunuza, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce tarz\u0131n\u0131za dikkat edin, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik e\u011filimlerinizi fark etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo3;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">A\u015fa\u011f\u0131daki sorular\u0131n cevaplar\u0131n\u0131 bir s\u00fcre, bir deftere not al\u0131n, size destek olacak bir yak\u0131n\u0131n\u0131zla ya da bir psikologla payla\u015f\u0131n:<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; text-indent: 35.4pt; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">-Ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131zda daha \u00e7ok hangi alanlar\u0131nda bu e\u011filimi g\u00f6steriyorsunuz?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt 35.4pt;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">-Bu davran\u0131\u015f ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce tarz\u0131 sizi nas\u0131l etkiliyor?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt 35.4pt;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">\u2013 -Meli, -mal\u0131 tarz\u0131ndaki d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce kal\u0131plar\u0131n\u0131z var m\u0131? (\u00d6r: \u201cGirdi\u011fim her s\u0131nav\u0131 ilk s\u0131ralarda kazanmal\u0131y\u0131m\u201d, \u201cHer zaman i\u015f yerinde en ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 eleman olmal\u0131y\u0131m\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt 35.4pt;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011finizi t\u00f6rp\u00fclemeniz ve daha rahat bir yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 benimsemeniz i\u00e7in nelere ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z var?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"margin-top: 0cm;\" type=\"disc\">\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo4;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">De\u011fi\u015ftirmek istedi\u011finiz t\u00fcm m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizi ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 liste haline getirin ve her biri i\u00e7in yeni alternatifler belirleyin.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo4;\"><strong style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">\u00d6r:<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\"> \u201cYapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m her i\u015f kusursuz olmal\u0131, en ufak hata benim ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131md\u0131r!\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi yerine \u201cBen de herkes gibi hata\u00a0\u00a0 yapabilirim, bu benim ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z oldu\u011fum anlam\u0131na gelmez, \u015fimdiye kadar yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m ve ba\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131m pek \u00e7ok \u015fey var\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesini alternatif olarak belirleyebilirsiniz.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul style=\"margin-top: 0cm;\" type=\"disc\">\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo4;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131za getirdi\u011fi avantajlar\u0131 ve dezavantajlar\u0131 bir liste haline getirin. B\u00f6ylelikle, belki de, bu e\u011filiminizin bir\u00e7ok olumsuzlu\u011fa bedel oldu\u011funu g\u00f6rebilirsiniz. <\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; tab-stops: list 36.0pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo4;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">\u00c7evrenizdeki ki\u015fileri de g\u00f6zlemleyin, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i olmayan arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z varsa onlardan bu konuda g\u00f6sterdi\u011finiz her geli\u015fmeyi size g\u00f6stermelerini, sizi motive etmelerini isteyin.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt;\"><strong style=\"mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">Not:<\/span><\/strong><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\"> T\u00fcm bu y\u00f6ntemleri uygularken kendinize zaman tan\u0131y\u0131n; acele etmeden, fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 geli\u015ftirerek bu y\u00f6nde geli\u015fiminize devam edin. Unutmay\u0131n, hafifletmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u015fey \u201cm\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011finiz\u201d, yani bu s\u00fcreci de zaman\u0131nda ve en iyi \u015fekilde (!) bitirilmesi gereken bir proje olarak g\u00f6rmeyin! <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\" style=\"text-align: justify; margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 10pt;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z sizi yeterince tatmin etmiyor mu? Bitirilmesi gereken i\u015flerinizi, \u201cEn iyisini yapmal\u0131y\u0131m\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi ile hep geciktiriyor musunuz? Kendinizi s\u00fcrekli ele\u015ftiriyor, hep olumsuz taraflar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 m\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyorsunuz? O halde siz de bir \u201cm\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i\u201d olabilirsiniz. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015filer zor ve yakalanmas\u0131 \u00e7ok g\u00fc\u00e7 hedefler pe\u015finde ko\u015far ve en ufak bir hatay\u0131 ne kendilerinde ne de ba\u015fkalar\u0131nda kabul eder, tam tersine bunu genel bir ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr.\u00a0\u00a0 Ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 biri olmak i\u00e7in m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik gerekli midir? Ba\u015far\u0131 i\u00e7in m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin gerekli oldu\u011funa dair yayg\u0131n bir yanl\u0131\u015f inan\u0131\u015f vard\u0131r. Oysa, yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar bunun tam tersini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor, yani m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i tutumlar ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131 g\u00f6lgeliyor! \u201cBa\u015far\u0131 odakl\u0131\u201d ki\u015filer, ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirilebilir hedeflere odaklan\u0131r ve o hedefe ula\u015f\u0131rken ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 s\u00fcrecin de keyfini \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r. Buna kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015filer, \u201ckusursuzu\u201d ba\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131nda mutlu olur, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131na, t\u00f6kezlemelerine tahamm\u00fcl edemez ve b\u00f6yle durumlarda kendi de\u011ferlerini sorgulamaya ba\u015flar. Ayn\u0131 zamanda, \u00e7evrelerinde bulunanlar\u0131n da en ufak hatalar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 toleranslar\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in, s\u0131kl\u0131kla \u201cEn iyisini ben yapar\u0131m, ba\u015fkalar\u0131na g\u00fcvenmiyorum\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesiyle i\u015flerinin tek yetkili ki\u015fisi olmay\u0131 tercih ederler. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015filer ele\u015ftiriye de a\u00e7\u0131k de\u011fildir, zira ele\u015ftiriyi kendi ki\u015filiklerine mal eder ve bu y\u00fczden hemen savunmac\u0131 ve kat\u0131 bir tutum sergiler. Oysa, ba\u015far\u0131 odakl\u0131 ki\u015filer ele\u015ftiriyi kendi geli\u015fimleri i\u00e7in bir f\u0131rsat kabul eder ve kendi hatalar\u0131ndan da olumlu dersler \u00e7\u0131kararak yoluna devam eder.\u00a0 M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin nedenleri \u015eimdiye kadar yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin temelinde ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k ve reddedilme korkusu (bu, \u00f6zellikle \u00e7ocukluk ve ergenlik d\u00f6nemlerinde ailenin yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131na ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak geli\u015fir), \u00f6zg\u00fcven sorunlar\u0131 ve siyah ya da beyaz \u015feklinde \u201ckat\u0131\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme tarz\u0131n\u0131n oldu\u011funu g\u00f6steriyor.\u00a0\u00a0 E\u011fer siz de kendinizi bir m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i olarak tan\u0131ml\u0131yorsan\u0131z, bu y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irmeniz faydal\u0131 olacakt\u0131r, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu tarz bir e\u011filim size yarardan \u00e7ok zarar getirebilir. Bu ki\u015filik profilindeki ki\u015filerin ya\u015famlar\u0131n\u0131n bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnde ya da genelinde a\u015fa\u011f\u0131daki psikolojik sorunlar\u0131 ya\u015fama olas\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131 hayli y\u00fcksektir: Depresyon Su\u00e7luluk duygusu \u00d6zg\u00fcven azl\u0131\u011f\u0131 Motivasyon d\u00fc\u015f\u00fckl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc Obsesif kompulsif davran\u0131\u015flar sergileme Yeme bozukluklar\u0131 Uyku bozukluklar\u0131 Yorgunluk, bitkinlik M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011finizi nas\u0131l hafifletebilirsiniz?\u00a0 Bir s\u00fcre sadece g\u00f6zlem yap\u0131n; olaylara verdi\u011finiz tepkilere, kendinizle ilgili beklentilerinize, genel duygusal durumunuza, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce tarz\u0131n\u0131za dikkat edin, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik e\u011filimlerinizi fark etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. A\u015fa\u011f\u0131daki sorular\u0131n cevaplar\u0131n\u0131 bir s\u00fcre, bir deftere not al\u0131n, size destek olacak bir yak\u0131n\u0131n\u0131zla ya da bir psikologla payla\u015f\u0131n: -Ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131zda daha \u00e7ok hangi alanlar\u0131nda bu e\u011filimi g\u00f6steriyorsunuz? -Bu davran\u0131\u015f ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce tarz\u0131 sizi nas\u0131l etkiliyor? \u2013 -Meli, -mal\u0131 tarz\u0131ndaki d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce kal\u0131plar\u0131n\u0131z var m\u0131? (\u00d6r: \u201cGirdi\u011fim her s\u0131nav\u0131 ilk s\u0131ralarda kazanmal\u0131y\u0131m\u201d, \u201cHer zaman i\u015f yerinde en ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 eleman olmal\u0131y\u0131m\u201d M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011finizi t\u00f6rp\u00fclemeniz ve daha rahat bir yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 benimsemeniz i\u00e7in nelere ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z var? De\u011fi\u015ftirmek istedi\u011finiz t\u00fcm m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizi ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 liste haline getirin ve her biri i\u00e7in yeni alternatifler belirleyin. \u00d6r: \u201cYapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m her i\u015f kusursuz olmal\u0131, en ufak hata benim ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131md\u0131r!\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi yerine \u201cBen de herkes gibi hata\u00a0\u00a0 yapabilirim, bu benim ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z oldu\u011fum anlam\u0131na gelmez, \u015fimdiye kadar yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m ve ba\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131m pek \u00e7ok \u015fey var\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesini alternatif olarak belirleyebilirsiniz. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131za getirdi\u011fi avantajlar\u0131 ve dezavantajlar\u0131 bir liste haline getirin. B\u00f6ylelikle, belki de, bu e\u011filiminizin bir\u00e7ok olumsuzlu\u011fa bedel oldu\u011funu g\u00f6rebilirsiniz. \u00c7evrenizdeki ki\u015fileri de g\u00f6zlemleyin, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i olmayan arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z varsa onlardan bu konuda g\u00f6sterdi\u011finiz her geli\u015fmeyi size g\u00f6stermelerini, sizi motive etmelerini isteyin.\u00a0 Not: T\u00fcm bu y\u00f6ntemleri uygularken kendinize zaman tan\u0131y\u0131n; acele etmeden, fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 geli\u015ftirerek bu y\u00f6nde geli\u015fiminize devam edin. Unutmay\u0131n, hafifletmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u015fey \u201cm\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011finiz\u201d, yani bu s\u00fcreci de zaman\u0131nda ve en iyi \u015fekilde (!) bitirilmesi gereken bir proje olarak g\u00f6rmeyin! \u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4023,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[73],"tags":[248,104,249,250,251,252,253],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v18.2 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Siz de bir &quot;m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i&quot; misiniz? - Uzman Klinik Psikolog \u0130lknur Y\u0131lmaz<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/ilknuryilmaz.com\/siz-de-bir-mukemmeliyetci-misiniz\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"tr_TR\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Siz de bir &quot;m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i&quot; misiniz? - Uzman Klinik Psikolog \u0130lknur Y\u0131lmaz\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z sizi yeterince tatmin etmiyor mu? Bitirilmesi gereken i\u015flerinizi, \u201cEn iyisini yapmal\u0131y\u0131m\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi ile hep geciktiriyor musunuz? Kendinizi s\u00fcrekli ele\u015ftiriyor, hep olumsuz taraflar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 m\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyorsunuz? O halde siz de bir \u201cm\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i\u201d olabilirsiniz. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015filer zor ve yakalanmas\u0131 \u00e7ok g\u00fc\u00e7 hedefler pe\u015finde ko\u015far ve en ufak bir hatay\u0131 ne kendilerinde ne de ba\u015fkalar\u0131nda kabul eder, tam tersine bunu genel bir ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr.\u00a0\u00a0 Ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 biri olmak i\u00e7in m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik gerekli midir? Ba\u015far\u0131 i\u00e7in m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin gerekli oldu\u011funa dair yayg\u0131n bir yanl\u0131\u015f inan\u0131\u015f vard\u0131r. Oysa, yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar bunun tam tersini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor, yani m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i tutumlar ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131 g\u00f6lgeliyor! \u201cBa\u015far\u0131 odakl\u0131\u201d ki\u015filer, ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirilebilir hedeflere odaklan\u0131r ve o hedefe ula\u015f\u0131rken ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 s\u00fcrecin de keyfini \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r. Buna kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015filer, \u201ckusursuzu\u201d ba\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131nda mutlu olur, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131na, t\u00f6kezlemelerine tahamm\u00fcl edemez ve b\u00f6yle durumlarda kendi de\u011ferlerini sorgulamaya ba\u015flar. Ayn\u0131 zamanda, \u00e7evrelerinde bulunanlar\u0131n da en ufak hatalar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 toleranslar\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in, s\u0131kl\u0131kla \u201cEn iyisini ben yapar\u0131m, ba\u015fkalar\u0131na g\u00fcvenmiyorum\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesiyle i\u015flerinin tek yetkili ki\u015fisi olmay\u0131 tercih ederler. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015filer ele\u015ftiriye de a\u00e7\u0131k de\u011fildir, zira ele\u015ftiriyi kendi ki\u015filiklerine mal eder ve bu y\u00fczden hemen savunmac\u0131 ve kat\u0131 bir tutum sergiler. Oysa, ba\u015far\u0131 odakl\u0131 ki\u015filer ele\u015ftiriyi kendi geli\u015fimleri i\u00e7in bir f\u0131rsat kabul eder ve kendi hatalar\u0131ndan da olumlu dersler \u00e7\u0131kararak yoluna devam eder.\u00a0 M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin nedenleri \u015eimdiye kadar yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin temelinde ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k ve reddedilme korkusu (bu, \u00f6zellikle \u00e7ocukluk ve ergenlik d\u00f6nemlerinde ailenin yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131na ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak geli\u015fir), \u00f6zg\u00fcven sorunlar\u0131 ve siyah ya da beyaz \u015feklinde \u201ckat\u0131\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme tarz\u0131n\u0131n oldu\u011funu g\u00f6steriyor.\u00a0\u00a0 E\u011fer siz de kendinizi bir m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i olarak tan\u0131ml\u0131yorsan\u0131z, bu y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irmeniz faydal\u0131 olacakt\u0131r, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu tarz bir e\u011filim size yarardan \u00e7ok zarar getirebilir. Bu ki\u015filik profilindeki ki\u015filerin ya\u015famlar\u0131n\u0131n bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnde ya da genelinde a\u015fa\u011f\u0131daki psikolojik sorunlar\u0131 ya\u015fama olas\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131 hayli y\u00fcksektir: Depresyon Su\u00e7luluk duygusu \u00d6zg\u00fcven azl\u0131\u011f\u0131 Motivasyon d\u00fc\u015f\u00fckl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc Obsesif kompulsif davran\u0131\u015flar sergileme Yeme bozukluklar\u0131 Uyku bozukluklar\u0131 Yorgunluk, bitkinlik M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011finizi nas\u0131l hafifletebilirsiniz?\u00a0 Bir s\u00fcre sadece g\u00f6zlem yap\u0131n; olaylara verdi\u011finiz tepkilere, kendinizle ilgili beklentilerinize, genel duygusal durumunuza, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce tarz\u0131n\u0131za dikkat edin, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik e\u011filimlerinizi fark etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. A\u015fa\u011f\u0131daki sorular\u0131n cevaplar\u0131n\u0131 bir s\u00fcre, bir deftere not al\u0131n, size destek olacak bir yak\u0131n\u0131n\u0131zla ya da bir psikologla payla\u015f\u0131n: -Ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131zda daha \u00e7ok hangi alanlar\u0131nda bu e\u011filimi g\u00f6steriyorsunuz? -Bu davran\u0131\u015f ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce tarz\u0131 sizi nas\u0131l etkiliyor? \u2013 -Meli, -mal\u0131 tarz\u0131ndaki d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce kal\u0131plar\u0131n\u0131z var m\u0131? (\u00d6r: \u201cGirdi\u011fim her s\u0131nav\u0131 ilk s\u0131ralarda kazanmal\u0131y\u0131m\u201d, \u201cHer zaman i\u015f yerinde en ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 eleman olmal\u0131y\u0131m\u201d M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011finizi t\u00f6rp\u00fclemeniz ve daha rahat bir yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 benimsemeniz i\u00e7in nelere ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z var? De\u011fi\u015ftirmek istedi\u011finiz t\u00fcm m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizi ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 liste haline getirin ve her biri i\u00e7in yeni alternatifler belirleyin. \u00d6r: \u201cYapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m her i\u015f kusursuz olmal\u0131, en ufak hata benim ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131md\u0131r!\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi yerine \u201cBen de herkes gibi hata\u00a0\u00a0 yapabilirim, bu benim ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z oldu\u011fum anlam\u0131na gelmez, \u015fimdiye kadar yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m ve ba\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131m pek \u00e7ok \u015fey var\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesini alternatif olarak belirleyebilirsiniz. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131za getirdi\u011fi avantajlar\u0131 ve dezavantajlar\u0131 bir liste haline getirin. B\u00f6ylelikle, belki de, bu e\u011filiminizin bir\u00e7ok olumsuzlu\u011fa bedel oldu\u011funu g\u00f6rebilirsiniz. \u00c7evrenizdeki ki\u015fileri de g\u00f6zlemleyin, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i olmayan arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z varsa onlardan bu konuda g\u00f6sterdi\u011finiz her geli\u015fmeyi size g\u00f6stermelerini, sizi motive etmelerini isteyin.\u00a0 Not: T\u00fcm bu y\u00f6ntemleri uygularken kendinize zaman tan\u0131y\u0131n; acele etmeden, fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 geli\u015ftirerek bu y\u00f6nde geli\u015fiminize devam edin. 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O halde siz de bir \u201cm\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i\u201d olabilirsiniz. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015filer zor ve yakalanmas\u0131 \u00e7ok g\u00fc\u00e7 hedefler pe\u015finde ko\u015far ve en ufak bir hatay\u0131 ne kendilerinde ne de ba\u015fkalar\u0131nda kabul eder, tam tersine bunu genel bir ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr.\u00a0\u00a0 Ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 biri olmak i\u00e7in m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik gerekli midir? Ba\u015far\u0131 i\u00e7in m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin gerekli oldu\u011funa dair yayg\u0131n bir yanl\u0131\u015f inan\u0131\u015f vard\u0131r. Oysa, yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar bunun tam tersini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor, yani m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i tutumlar ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131 g\u00f6lgeliyor! \u201cBa\u015far\u0131 odakl\u0131\u201d ki\u015filer, ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirilebilir hedeflere odaklan\u0131r ve o hedefe ula\u015f\u0131rken ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 s\u00fcrecin de keyfini \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r. Buna kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015filer, \u201ckusursuzu\u201d ba\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131nda mutlu olur, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131na, t\u00f6kezlemelerine tahamm\u00fcl edemez ve b\u00f6yle durumlarda kendi de\u011ferlerini sorgulamaya ba\u015flar. Ayn\u0131 zamanda, \u00e7evrelerinde bulunanlar\u0131n da en ufak hatalar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 toleranslar\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in, s\u0131kl\u0131kla \u201cEn iyisini ben yapar\u0131m, ba\u015fkalar\u0131na g\u00fcvenmiyorum\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesiyle i\u015flerinin tek yetkili ki\u015fisi olmay\u0131 tercih ederler. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i ki\u015filer ele\u015ftiriye de a\u00e7\u0131k de\u011fildir, zira ele\u015ftiriyi kendi ki\u015filiklerine mal eder ve bu y\u00fczden hemen savunmac\u0131 ve kat\u0131 bir tutum sergiler. Oysa, ba\u015far\u0131 odakl\u0131 ki\u015filer ele\u015ftiriyi kendi geli\u015fimleri i\u00e7in bir f\u0131rsat kabul eder ve kendi hatalar\u0131ndan da olumlu dersler \u00e7\u0131kararak yoluna devam eder.\u00a0 M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin nedenleri \u015eimdiye kadar yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin temelinde ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k ve reddedilme korkusu (bu, \u00f6zellikle \u00e7ocukluk ve ergenlik d\u00f6nemlerinde ailenin yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131na ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak geli\u015fir), \u00f6zg\u00fcven sorunlar\u0131 ve siyah ya da beyaz \u015feklinde \u201ckat\u0131\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme tarz\u0131n\u0131n oldu\u011funu g\u00f6steriyor.\u00a0\u00a0 E\u011fer siz de kendinizi bir m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i olarak tan\u0131ml\u0131yorsan\u0131z, bu y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irmeniz faydal\u0131 olacakt\u0131r, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu tarz bir e\u011filim size yarardan \u00e7ok zarar getirebilir. Bu ki\u015filik profilindeki ki\u015filerin ya\u015famlar\u0131n\u0131n bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnde ya da genelinde a\u015fa\u011f\u0131daki psikolojik sorunlar\u0131 ya\u015fama olas\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131 hayli y\u00fcksektir: Depresyon Su\u00e7luluk duygusu \u00d6zg\u00fcven azl\u0131\u011f\u0131 Motivasyon d\u00fc\u015f\u00fckl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc Obsesif kompulsif davran\u0131\u015flar sergileme Yeme bozukluklar\u0131 Uyku bozukluklar\u0131 Yorgunluk, bitkinlik M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011finizi nas\u0131l hafifletebilirsiniz?\u00a0 Bir s\u00fcre sadece g\u00f6zlem yap\u0131n; olaylara verdi\u011finiz tepkilere, kendinizle ilgili beklentilerinize, genel duygusal durumunuza, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce tarz\u0131n\u0131za dikkat edin, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik e\u011filimlerinizi fark etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. A\u015fa\u011f\u0131daki sorular\u0131n cevaplar\u0131n\u0131 bir s\u00fcre, bir deftere not al\u0131n, size destek olacak bir yak\u0131n\u0131n\u0131zla ya da bir psikologla payla\u015f\u0131n: -Ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131zda daha \u00e7ok hangi alanlar\u0131nda bu e\u011filimi g\u00f6steriyorsunuz? -Bu davran\u0131\u015f ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce tarz\u0131 sizi nas\u0131l etkiliyor? \u2013 -Meli, -mal\u0131 tarz\u0131ndaki d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce kal\u0131plar\u0131n\u0131z var m\u0131? (\u00d6r: \u201cGirdi\u011fim her s\u0131nav\u0131 ilk s\u0131ralarda kazanmal\u0131y\u0131m\u201d, \u201cHer zaman i\u015f yerinde en ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 eleman olmal\u0131y\u0131m\u201d M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011finizi t\u00f6rp\u00fclemeniz ve daha rahat bir yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 benimsemeniz i\u00e7in nelere ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z var? De\u011fi\u015ftirmek istedi\u011finiz t\u00fcm m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizi ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 liste haline getirin ve her biri i\u00e7in yeni alternatifler belirleyin. \u00d6r: \u201cYapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m her i\u015f kusursuz olmal\u0131, en ufak hata benim ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131md\u0131r!\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi yerine \u201cBen de herkes gibi hata\u00a0\u00a0 yapabilirim, bu benim ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z oldu\u011fum anlam\u0131na gelmez, \u015fimdiye kadar yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m ve ba\u015fard\u0131\u011f\u0131m pek \u00e7ok \u015fey var\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesini alternatif olarak belirleyebilirsiniz. M\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ili\u011fin ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131za getirdi\u011fi avantajlar\u0131 ve dezavantajlar\u0131 bir liste haline getirin. B\u00f6ylelikle, belki de, bu e\u011filiminizin bir\u00e7ok olumsuzlu\u011fa bedel oldu\u011funu g\u00f6rebilirsiniz. \u00c7evrenizdeki ki\u015fileri de g\u00f6zlemleyin, m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i olmayan arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z varsa onlardan bu konuda g\u00f6sterdi\u011finiz her geli\u015fmeyi size g\u00f6stermelerini, sizi motive etmelerini isteyin.\u00a0 Not: T\u00fcm bu y\u00f6ntemleri uygularken kendinize zaman tan\u0131y\u0131n; acele etmeden, fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 geli\u015ftirerek bu y\u00f6nde geli\u015fiminize devam edin. 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