{"id":1522,"date":"2017-06-09T22:44:18","date_gmt":"2017-06-09T20:44:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ilknuryilmaz.com\/?p=1522"},"modified":"2017-06-09T22:44:18","modified_gmt":"2017-06-09T20:44:18","slug":"dostca-bosanmak-milliyet-pembenar-kosemden","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ilknuryilmaz.com\/dostca-bosanmak-milliyet-pembenar-kosemden\/","title":{"rendered":"Dost\u00e7a bo\u015fanmak \/Milliyet PembeNar k\u00f6\u015femden.."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz g\u00fcnlerde, k\u00f6\u015fe yazar\u0131 Onur Ba\u015ft\u00fcrk\u2019\u00fcn, tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015f bir siman\u0131n bo\u015fanmas\u0131na dair bir yaz\u0131s\u0131na denk geldim. Bu \u00e7iftin, bo\u015fanma sonras\u0131nda, birlikte g\u00fcl\u00fcmsedikleri bir foto\u011fraf \u00fczerine ve bo\u015fanma \u015feklinin ne kadar medeni oldu\u011funa dair bir yaz\u0131yd\u0131. Ben de psikolog g\u00f6zl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmle bu foto\u011frafa bak\u0131p d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm. Be\u015f \u00e7ocu\u011fu olan bir \u00e7ift, g\u00fcn geliyor yollar\u0131n\u0131 ay\u0131rmaya karar veriyor. Kavgas\u0131z, g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcs\u00fcz, g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyerek..Toplumumuzun al\u0131\u015fk\u0131n olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir tablo..Sanki ayr\u0131l\u0131klar her daim kavgal\u0131, \u00e7eki\u015fmeli, bolca hakaretli olur gibi bir toplumsal alg\u0131dan s\u00f6z edebiliriz. Oysa ki, her \u00e7iftin evlilik karar\u0131 alma motivasyonu ve enerjisi nas\u0131l farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6steriyorsa, ayr\u0131lma nedenleri ve bi\u00e7imleri de yine farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6sterecektir ve evet g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyerek, hatta el ele tutu\u015farak bo\u015fanmak neden m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmas\u0131n? B\u00f6yle ayr\u0131labilen \u00e7iftler bunu nas\u0131l ba\u015farabiliyor, bundan bir par\u00e7a s\u00f6z etmek istiyorum.<\/p>\n<p>Eski y\u0131llarda, ayr\u0131lan bir ki\u015fiye \u201cNeden ayr\u0131l\u0131yorsunuz?\u201d sorusu y\u00f6neltildi\u011finde, \u201cE\u015fimle aramda ileti\u015fimsizlik var\u201d ya da \u201cY\u00fcr\u00fcmek istedi\u011fimiz yollar farkl\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u201d gibi yan\u0131tlar al\u0131nsa, bu ki\u015fiye b\u00fcy\u00fck bir ihtimalle garipseyen bak\u0131\u015flar at\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Anne-babalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n zaman\u0131nda bir evlili\u011fin sona ermesi, ancak \u00e7ok yo\u011fun \u015fiddet, alkol-madde kullan\u0131m\u0131 gibi nedenlerin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda belki makul say\u0131labilirdi. Belki diyorum, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc toplumumuzun geneti\u011fine i\u015flemi\u015f bir \u201ckutsal evlilik\u201d imaj\u0131 var, yani insanlar sanki bo\u015fanmamak \u00fczere evlenirler \u00fclkemizde. \u201cYuva\u201dn\u0131n kutsall\u0131\u011f\u0131na vurgu yap\u0131l\u0131r ve \u00f6zellikle de \u00e7ocuk sahibi olunmu\u015fsa, mutlaka devam etmelidir evlilikler! Hele ki, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00fczerine y\u00fcklenmi\u015f ne kadar da fazla sorumluluk vard\u0131r. \u201cYuvay\u0131 di\u015fi ku\u015f yapar\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc y\u0131llarca e\u011fitimli kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00fczerinde bile bir kambur gibi yer ald\u0131. \u0130li\u015fkilerin y\u00fcr\u00fcmesinde sanki ana rol kad\u0131n\u0131nm\u0131\u015f gibi bir alg\u0131 hep mevcuttu.<\/p>\n<p>Kad\u0131n ve \u00f6zellikle anne olmu\u015f bir kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131 \u00fclkemizde sizce de \u015f\u00f6yle de\u011fil midir? \u201cFedakar, kendisini \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na adam\u0131\u015f, kendi bireysel ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 unutmu\u015f, e\u015fini idare edebilen, alttan alan, daha arka planda yer alan, derleyen, toparlay\u0131c\u0131 vb.\u201d Bu d\u00fczen ve kad\u0131na atfedilen, onun daha arka planda olmas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ng\u00f6ren s\u0131fatlar art\u0131k \u0130stanbul gibi b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fehirlerde ya\u015fayan e\u011fitimli, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan kad\u0131nlar d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda kabul g\u00f6rm\u00fcyor, herkes kendi kimli\u011fine daha \u00e7ok sahip \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. \u00d6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck, \u00f6zg\u00fcr hissetmek \u00e7ok \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131yor. Eskiden k\u0131rkl\u0131 ya\u015flar \u201cbir k\u00f6\u015feye \u00e7ekilme \u201c ya\u015f\u0131yken, \u015fimdi \u201cHayat k\u0131rk\u0131nda ba\u015flar\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi kabul g\u00f6r\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n<p>Bu ba\u011flamda bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda da, art\u0131k evlilikler de hem kad\u0131n, hem de erkek i\u00e7in, idare edilmesi, y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fclmesi zaruri bir kurum olmaktan \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Evlenen her \u00e7ift \u015f\u00fcphe yok ki, mutlu olmak i\u00e7in evlenir; hayalleri, planlar\u0131, olumlu beklentileri vard\u0131r. Ancak, ge\u00e7en zaman, iki ki\u015fiyi de farkl\u0131 etkileyebiliyor. Hem kad\u0131n, hem erkek kendi i\u00e7inde farkl\u0131la\u015fabiliyor, hayattan beklentileri, yapmak istedikleri, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce yap\u0131lar\u0131, inan\u00e7lar\u0131 de\u011fi\u015febiliyor. Bu de\u011fi\u015fim olurken, kad\u0131n ve erkek, ortak k\u00fcmeleri olan ili\u015fkilerini sabit tutup, yenilemezlerse denklemin bozuldu\u011funu, sorunlar\u0131n ba\u015f g\u00f6sterdi\u011fini g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz. Oysa ki, ili\u015fki hem duygusal hem de cinsel olarak heyecan, tutku \u00f6\u011felerini her d\u00f6nem yenilemelidir. Farkl\u0131l\u0131klar, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 s\u00fcrprizler, rutini k\u0131rmak..\u0130li\u015fkide tekd\u00fczelik bir s\u00fcredir devam ediyorsa, duygular\u0131n yo\u011fun kalmas\u0131 \u00e7ok zor bir olas\u0131l\u0131kt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Bir evlili\u011fin devam etmesi i\u00e7in iki taraf\u0131n da duygusal ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131n, payla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131n derinli\u011finin, yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n temel belirleyiciler oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcm hep. E\u015fler ayn\u0131 anda, hem birbirlerine ba\u011fl\u0131, hem de \u00f6zg\u00fcr hissettikleri oranda mutlu ve tatminli hissederler kan\u0131mca. E\u011fer kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 bu al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f uzun bir s\u00fcredir sekteye u\u011fram\u0131\u015fsa, iki taraf da s\u0131kl\u0131kla kendisini \u00fczg\u00fcn, enerjisi al\u0131nm\u0131\u015f, \u00f6fkeli, mutsuz hissediyorsa, \u00f6ncelikle bir evlilik terapisi almak d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclebilir. Onlar\u0131 bu noktaya ta\u015f\u0131yan nedenleri bulmak ve ili\u015fkilerini istedikleri, hayal ettikleri noktaya ta\u015f\u0131mak i\u00e7in beraber, el ele verip \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabilirler. Bu \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma sonras\u0131, ili\u015fkilerini eskisinden sa\u011flam hale getirebilen \u00e7iftlerin olabildi\u011fini \u00e7ift terapisi uygulamalar\u0131ma dayanarak s\u00f6yleyebilirim. Ancak, b\u00fct\u00fcn bu \u00e7abalar\u0131n sonucunda duygular\u0131n\u0131 harekete ge\u00e7iremeyen ve yollar\u0131n\u0131n tamamen ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 noktas\u0131nda hemfikir olan \u00e7iftler de g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum.<\/p>\n<p>En \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmas\u0131z, kavgas\u0131z bo\u015fanmalar bile kad\u0131n ve erkek i\u00e7in zorlay\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Neticede, bir \u201ckay\u0131p\u201d duygusu ya\u015fan\u0131r ve yas s\u00fcrecine benzer ini\u015fli \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015fl\u0131 duygular ya\u015fanabilir. Ama, bu kayb\u0131n travmatik bi\u00e7imde ya\u015fanmamas\u0131 ad\u0131na, ili\u015fkiyi onarmak i\u00e7in \u00e7aba g\u00f6sterilip sonu\u00e7 al\u0131namad\u0131ysa, anla\u015fmak ve uzla\u015fmak \u00e7iftlerin psikolojik sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n<p>Birbirlerinden alacak, verecek bir \u015fey olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na kanaat getirmek, iki taraf\u0131n bu ger\u00e7e\u011fi olgunlukla kar\u015f\u0131lamas\u0131, kabullenmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131, Onur Ba\u015ft\u00fcrk\u2019\u00fcn yaz\u0131s\u0131na konu olan \u00e7iftin foto\u011fraf\u0131nda oldu\u011fu gibi, g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyerek, dost\u00e7a ayr\u0131lmakla da sonu\u00e7lanabiliyor. B\u00f6yle ayr\u0131labilen \u00e7iftlerin haberlerinin medyada yer bulmas\u0131n\u0131, topluma olumlu \u00f6rnek te\u015fkil etmesi a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan olduk\u00e7a yararl\u0131 buluyorum.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130yi dileklerimle,<\/p>\n<p>Uzman Klinik Psikolog\/Cinsel Terapist \u0130lknur Y\u0131lmaz Ayta\u00e7<\/p>\n<p>D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm Psikolojik Dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131k Merkezi<br \/>\nAtak\u00f6y\/Bak\u0131rk\u00f6y<br \/>\nTel:02126617887<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz g\u00fcnlerde, k\u00f6\u015fe yazar\u0131 Onur Ba\u015ft\u00fcrk\u2019\u00fcn, tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015f bir siman\u0131n bo\u015fanmas\u0131na dair bir yaz\u0131s\u0131na denk geldim. Bu \u00e7iftin, bo\u015fanma sonras\u0131nda, birlikte g\u00fcl\u00fcmsedikleri bir foto\u011fraf \u00fczerine ve bo\u015fanma \u015feklinin ne kadar medeni oldu\u011funa dair bir yaz\u0131yd\u0131. Ben de psikolog g\u00f6zl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmle bu foto\u011frafa bak\u0131p d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm. Be\u015f \u00e7ocu\u011fu olan bir \u00e7ift, g\u00fcn geliyor yollar\u0131n\u0131 ay\u0131rmaya karar veriyor. Kavgas\u0131z, g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcs\u00fcz, g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyerek..Toplumumuzun al\u0131\u015fk\u0131n olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir tablo..Sanki ayr\u0131l\u0131klar her daim kavgal\u0131, \u00e7eki\u015fmeli, bolca hakaretli olur gibi bir toplumsal alg\u0131dan s\u00f6z edebiliriz. Oysa ki, her \u00e7iftin evlilik karar\u0131 alma motivasyonu ve enerjisi nas\u0131l farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6steriyorsa, ayr\u0131lma nedenleri ve bi\u00e7imleri de yine farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6sterecektir ve evet g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyerek, hatta el ele tutu\u015farak bo\u015fanmak neden m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmas\u0131n? B\u00f6yle ayr\u0131labilen \u00e7iftler bunu nas\u0131l ba\u015farabiliyor, bundan bir par\u00e7a s\u00f6z etmek istiyorum. Eski y\u0131llarda, ayr\u0131lan bir ki\u015fiye \u201cNeden ayr\u0131l\u0131yorsunuz?\u201d sorusu y\u00f6neltildi\u011finde, \u201cE\u015fimle aramda ileti\u015fimsizlik var\u201d ya da \u201cY\u00fcr\u00fcmek istedi\u011fimiz yollar farkl\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u201d gibi yan\u0131tlar al\u0131nsa, bu ki\u015fiye b\u00fcy\u00fck bir ihtimalle garipseyen bak\u0131\u015flar at\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Anne-babalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n zaman\u0131nda bir evlili\u011fin sona ermesi, ancak \u00e7ok yo\u011fun \u015fiddet, alkol-madde kullan\u0131m\u0131 gibi nedenlerin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda belki makul say\u0131labilirdi. Belki diyorum, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc toplumumuzun geneti\u011fine i\u015flemi\u015f bir \u201ckutsal evlilik\u201d imaj\u0131 var, yani insanlar sanki bo\u015fanmamak \u00fczere evlenirler \u00fclkemizde. \u201cYuva\u201dn\u0131n kutsall\u0131\u011f\u0131na vurgu yap\u0131l\u0131r ve \u00f6zellikle de \u00e7ocuk sahibi olunmu\u015fsa, mutlaka devam etmelidir evlilikler! Hele ki, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00fczerine y\u00fcklenmi\u015f ne kadar da fazla sorumluluk vard\u0131r. \u201cYuvay\u0131 di\u015fi ku\u015f yapar\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc y\u0131llarca e\u011fitimli kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00fczerinde bile bir kambur gibi yer ald\u0131. \u0130li\u015fkilerin y\u00fcr\u00fcmesinde sanki ana rol kad\u0131n\u0131nm\u0131\u015f gibi bir alg\u0131 hep mevcuttu. Kad\u0131n ve \u00f6zellikle anne olmu\u015f bir kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131 \u00fclkemizde sizce de \u015f\u00f6yle de\u011fil midir? \u201cFedakar, kendisini \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na adam\u0131\u015f, kendi bireysel ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 unutmu\u015f, e\u015fini idare edebilen, alttan alan, daha arka planda yer alan, derleyen, toparlay\u0131c\u0131 vb.\u201d Bu d\u00fczen ve kad\u0131na atfedilen, onun daha arka planda olmas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ng\u00f6ren s\u0131fatlar art\u0131k \u0130stanbul gibi b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fehirlerde ya\u015fayan e\u011fitimli, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan kad\u0131nlar d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda kabul g\u00f6rm\u00fcyor, herkes kendi kimli\u011fine daha \u00e7ok sahip \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. \u00d6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck, \u00f6zg\u00fcr hissetmek \u00e7ok \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131yor. Eskiden k\u0131rkl\u0131 ya\u015flar \u201cbir k\u00f6\u015feye \u00e7ekilme \u201c ya\u015f\u0131yken, \u015fimdi \u201cHayat k\u0131rk\u0131nda ba\u015flar\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi kabul g\u00f6r\u00fcyor. Bu ba\u011flamda bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda da, art\u0131k evlilikler de hem kad\u0131n, hem de erkek i\u00e7in, idare edilmesi, y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fclmesi zaruri bir kurum olmaktan \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Evlenen her \u00e7ift \u015f\u00fcphe yok ki, mutlu olmak i\u00e7in evlenir; hayalleri, planlar\u0131, olumlu beklentileri vard\u0131r. Ancak, ge\u00e7en zaman, iki ki\u015fiyi de farkl\u0131 etkileyebiliyor. Hem kad\u0131n, hem erkek kendi i\u00e7inde farkl\u0131la\u015fabiliyor, hayattan beklentileri, yapmak istedikleri, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce yap\u0131lar\u0131, inan\u00e7lar\u0131 de\u011fi\u015febiliyor. Bu de\u011fi\u015fim olurken, kad\u0131n ve erkek, ortak k\u00fcmeleri olan ili\u015fkilerini sabit tutup, yenilemezlerse denklemin bozuldu\u011funu, sorunlar\u0131n ba\u015f g\u00f6sterdi\u011fini g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz. Oysa ki, ili\u015fki hem duygusal hem de cinsel olarak heyecan, tutku \u00f6\u011felerini her d\u00f6nem yenilemelidir. Farkl\u0131l\u0131klar, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 s\u00fcrprizler, rutini k\u0131rmak..\u0130li\u015fkide tekd\u00fczelik bir s\u00fcredir devam ediyorsa, duygular\u0131n yo\u011fun kalmas\u0131 \u00e7ok zor bir olas\u0131l\u0131kt\u0131r. Bir evlili\u011fin devam etmesi i\u00e7in iki taraf\u0131n da duygusal ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131n, payla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131n derinli\u011finin, yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n temel belirleyiciler oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcm hep. E\u015fler ayn\u0131 anda, hem birbirlerine ba\u011fl\u0131, hem de \u00f6zg\u00fcr hissettikleri oranda mutlu ve tatminli hissederler kan\u0131mca. E\u011fer kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 bu al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f uzun bir s\u00fcredir sekteye u\u011fram\u0131\u015fsa, iki taraf da s\u0131kl\u0131kla kendisini \u00fczg\u00fcn, enerjisi al\u0131nm\u0131\u015f, \u00f6fkeli, mutsuz hissediyorsa, \u00f6ncelikle bir evlilik terapisi almak d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclebilir. Onlar\u0131 bu noktaya ta\u015f\u0131yan nedenleri bulmak ve ili\u015fkilerini istedikleri, hayal ettikleri noktaya ta\u015f\u0131mak i\u00e7in beraber, el ele verip \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabilirler. Bu \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma sonras\u0131, ili\u015fkilerini eskisinden sa\u011flam hale getirebilen \u00e7iftlerin olabildi\u011fini \u00e7ift terapisi uygulamalar\u0131ma dayanarak s\u00f6yleyebilirim. Ancak, b\u00fct\u00fcn bu \u00e7abalar\u0131n sonucunda duygular\u0131n\u0131 harekete ge\u00e7iremeyen ve yollar\u0131n\u0131n tamamen ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 noktas\u0131nda hemfikir olan \u00e7iftler de g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum. En \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmas\u0131z, kavgas\u0131z bo\u015fanmalar bile kad\u0131n ve erkek i\u00e7in zorlay\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Neticede, bir \u201ckay\u0131p\u201d duygusu ya\u015fan\u0131r ve yas s\u00fcrecine benzer ini\u015fli \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015fl\u0131 duygular ya\u015fanabilir. Ama, bu kayb\u0131n travmatik bi\u00e7imde ya\u015fanmamas\u0131 ad\u0131na, ili\u015fkiyi onarmak i\u00e7in \u00e7aba g\u00f6sterilip sonu\u00e7 al\u0131namad\u0131ysa, anla\u015fmak ve uzla\u015fmak \u00e7iftlerin psikolojik sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00f6nemlidir. Birbirlerinden alacak, verecek bir \u015fey olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na kanaat getirmek, iki taraf\u0131n bu ger\u00e7e\u011fi olgunlukla kar\u015f\u0131lamas\u0131, kabullenmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131, Onur Ba\u015ft\u00fcrk\u2019\u00fcn yaz\u0131s\u0131na konu olan \u00e7iftin foto\u011fraf\u0131nda oldu\u011fu gibi, g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyerek, dost\u00e7a ayr\u0131lmakla da sonu\u00e7lanabiliyor. B\u00f6yle ayr\u0131labilen \u00e7iftlerin haberlerinin medyada yer bulmas\u0131n\u0131, topluma olumlu \u00f6rnek te\u015fkil etmesi a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan olduk\u00e7a yararl\u0131 buluyorum. \u0130yi dileklerimle, Uzman Klinik Psikolog\/Cinsel Terapist \u0130lknur Y\u0131lmaz Ayta\u00e7 D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm Psikolojik Dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131k Merkezi Atak\u00f6y\/Bak\u0131rk\u00f6y Tel:02126617887<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4023,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[73],"tags":[509,510,511,82,485,512,199,201,203,496,215,218,219,513],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v18.2 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Dost\u00e7a bo\u015fanmak \/Milliyet PembeNar k\u00f6\u015femden.. - Uzman Klinik Psikolog \u0130lknur Y\u0131lmaz<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/ilknuryilmaz.com\/dostca-bosanmak-milliyet-pembenar-kosemden\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"tr_TR\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Dost\u00e7a bo\u015fanmak \/Milliyet PembeNar k\u00f6\u015femden.. - Uzman Klinik Psikolog \u0130lknur Y\u0131lmaz\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz g\u00fcnlerde, k\u00f6\u015fe yazar\u0131 Onur Ba\u015ft\u00fcrk\u2019\u00fcn, tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015f bir siman\u0131n bo\u015fanmas\u0131na dair bir yaz\u0131s\u0131na denk geldim. Bu \u00e7iftin, bo\u015fanma sonras\u0131nda, birlikte g\u00fcl\u00fcmsedikleri bir foto\u011fraf \u00fczerine ve bo\u015fanma \u015feklinin ne kadar medeni oldu\u011funa dair bir yaz\u0131yd\u0131. Ben de psikolog g\u00f6zl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmle bu foto\u011frafa bak\u0131p d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm. Be\u015f \u00e7ocu\u011fu olan bir \u00e7ift, g\u00fcn geliyor yollar\u0131n\u0131 ay\u0131rmaya karar veriyor. Kavgas\u0131z, g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcs\u00fcz, g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyerek..Toplumumuzun al\u0131\u015fk\u0131n olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir tablo..Sanki ayr\u0131l\u0131klar her daim kavgal\u0131, \u00e7eki\u015fmeli, bolca hakaretli olur gibi bir toplumsal alg\u0131dan s\u00f6z edebiliriz. Oysa ki, her \u00e7iftin evlilik karar\u0131 alma motivasyonu ve enerjisi nas\u0131l farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6steriyorsa, ayr\u0131lma nedenleri ve bi\u00e7imleri de yine farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6sterecektir ve evet g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyerek, hatta el ele tutu\u015farak bo\u015fanmak neden m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmas\u0131n? B\u00f6yle ayr\u0131labilen \u00e7iftler bunu nas\u0131l ba\u015farabiliyor, bundan bir par\u00e7a s\u00f6z etmek istiyorum. Eski y\u0131llarda, ayr\u0131lan bir ki\u015fiye \u201cNeden ayr\u0131l\u0131yorsunuz?\u201d sorusu y\u00f6neltildi\u011finde, \u201cE\u015fimle aramda ileti\u015fimsizlik var\u201d ya da \u201cY\u00fcr\u00fcmek istedi\u011fimiz yollar farkl\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u201d gibi yan\u0131tlar al\u0131nsa, bu ki\u015fiye b\u00fcy\u00fck bir ihtimalle garipseyen bak\u0131\u015flar at\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Anne-babalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n zaman\u0131nda bir evlili\u011fin sona ermesi, ancak \u00e7ok yo\u011fun \u015fiddet, alkol-madde kullan\u0131m\u0131 gibi nedenlerin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda belki makul say\u0131labilirdi. Belki diyorum, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc toplumumuzun geneti\u011fine i\u015flemi\u015f bir \u201ckutsal evlilik\u201d imaj\u0131 var, yani insanlar sanki bo\u015fanmamak \u00fczere evlenirler \u00fclkemizde. \u201cYuva\u201dn\u0131n kutsall\u0131\u011f\u0131na vurgu yap\u0131l\u0131r ve \u00f6zellikle de \u00e7ocuk sahibi olunmu\u015fsa, mutlaka devam etmelidir evlilikler! Hele ki, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00fczerine y\u00fcklenmi\u015f ne kadar da fazla sorumluluk vard\u0131r. \u201cYuvay\u0131 di\u015fi ku\u015f yapar\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc y\u0131llarca e\u011fitimli kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00fczerinde bile bir kambur gibi yer ald\u0131. \u0130li\u015fkilerin y\u00fcr\u00fcmesinde sanki ana rol kad\u0131n\u0131nm\u0131\u015f gibi bir alg\u0131 hep mevcuttu. Kad\u0131n ve \u00f6zellikle anne olmu\u015f bir kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131 \u00fclkemizde sizce de \u015f\u00f6yle de\u011fil midir? \u201cFedakar, kendisini \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na adam\u0131\u015f, kendi bireysel ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 unutmu\u015f, e\u015fini idare edebilen, alttan alan, daha arka planda yer alan, derleyen, toparlay\u0131c\u0131 vb.\u201d Bu d\u00fczen ve kad\u0131na atfedilen, onun daha arka planda olmas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ng\u00f6ren s\u0131fatlar art\u0131k \u0130stanbul gibi b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fehirlerde ya\u015fayan e\u011fitimli, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan kad\u0131nlar d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda kabul g\u00f6rm\u00fcyor, herkes kendi kimli\u011fine daha \u00e7ok sahip \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. \u00d6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck, \u00f6zg\u00fcr hissetmek \u00e7ok \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131yor. Eskiden k\u0131rkl\u0131 ya\u015flar \u201cbir k\u00f6\u015feye \u00e7ekilme \u201c ya\u015f\u0131yken, \u015fimdi \u201cHayat k\u0131rk\u0131nda ba\u015flar\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi kabul g\u00f6r\u00fcyor. Bu ba\u011flamda bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda da, art\u0131k evlilikler de hem kad\u0131n, hem de erkek i\u00e7in, idare edilmesi, y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fclmesi zaruri bir kurum olmaktan \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Evlenen her \u00e7ift \u015f\u00fcphe yok ki, mutlu olmak i\u00e7in evlenir; hayalleri, planlar\u0131, olumlu beklentileri vard\u0131r. Ancak, ge\u00e7en zaman, iki ki\u015fiyi de farkl\u0131 etkileyebiliyor. Hem kad\u0131n, hem erkek kendi i\u00e7inde farkl\u0131la\u015fabiliyor, hayattan beklentileri, yapmak istedikleri, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce yap\u0131lar\u0131, inan\u00e7lar\u0131 de\u011fi\u015febiliyor. Bu de\u011fi\u015fim olurken, kad\u0131n ve erkek, ortak k\u00fcmeleri olan ili\u015fkilerini sabit tutup, yenilemezlerse denklemin bozuldu\u011funu, sorunlar\u0131n ba\u015f g\u00f6sterdi\u011fini g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz. Oysa ki, ili\u015fki hem duygusal hem de cinsel olarak heyecan, tutku \u00f6\u011felerini her d\u00f6nem yenilemelidir. Farkl\u0131l\u0131klar, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 s\u00fcrprizler, rutini k\u0131rmak..\u0130li\u015fkide tekd\u00fczelik bir s\u00fcredir devam ediyorsa, duygular\u0131n yo\u011fun kalmas\u0131 \u00e7ok zor bir olas\u0131l\u0131kt\u0131r. Bir evlili\u011fin devam etmesi i\u00e7in iki taraf\u0131n da duygusal ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131n, payla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131n derinli\u011finin, yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n temel belirleyiciler oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcm hep. E\u015fler ayn\u0131 anda, hem birbirlerine ba\u011fl\u0131, hem de \u00f6zg\u00fcr hissettikleri oranda mutlu ve tatminli hissederler kan\u0131mca. E\u011fer kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 bu al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f uzun bir s\u00fcredir sekteye u\u011fram\u0131\u015fsa, iki taraf da s\u0131kl\u0131kla kendisini \u00fczg\u00fcn, enerjisi al\u0131nm\u0131\u015f, \u00f6fkeli, mutsuz hissediyorsa, \u00f6ncelikle bir evlilik terapisi almak d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclebilir. Onlar\u0131 bu noktaya ta\u015f\u0131yan nedenleri bulmak ve ili\u015fkilerini istedikleri, hayal ettikleri noktaya ta\u015f\u0131mak i\u00e7in beraber, el ele verip \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabilirler. Bu \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma sonras\u0131, ili\u015fkilerini eskisinden sa\u011flam hale getirebilen \u00e7iftlerin olabildi\u011fini \u00e7ift terapisi uygulamalar\u0131ma dayanarak s\u00f6yleyebilirim. Ancak, b\u00fct\u00fcn bu \u00e7abalar\u0131n sonucunda duygular\u0131n\u0131 harekete ge\u00e7iremeyen ve yollar\u0131n\u0131n tamamen ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 noktas\u0131nda hemfikir olan \u00e7iftler de g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum. En \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmas\u0131z, kavgas\u0131z bo\u015fanmalar bile kad\u0131n ve erkek i\u00e7in zorlay\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Neticede, bir \u201ckay\u0131p\u201d duygusu ya\u015fan\u0131r ve yas s\u00fcrecine benzer ini\u015fli \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015fl\u0131 duygular ya\u015fanabilir. Ama, bu kayb\u0131n travmatik bi\u00e7imde ya\u015fanmamas\u0131 ad\u0131na, ili\u015fkiyi onarmak i\u00e7in \u00e7aba g\u00f6sterilip sonu\u00e7 al\u0131namad\u0131ysa, anla\u015fmak ve uzla\u015fmak \u00e7iftlerin psikolojik sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00f6nemlidir. 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Oysa ki, her \u00e7iftin evlilik karar\u0131 alma motivasyonu ve enerjisi nas\u0131l farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6steriyorsa, ayr\u0131lma nedenleri ve bi\u00e7imleri de yine farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6sterecektir ve evet g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyerek, hatta el ele tutu\u015farak bo\u015fanmak neden m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmas\u0131n? B\u00f6yle ayr\u0131labilen \u00e7iftler bunu nas\u0131l ba\u015farabiliyor, bundan bir par\u00e7a s\u00f6z etmek istiyorum. Eski y\u0131llarda, ayr\u0131lan bir ki\u015fiye \u201cNeden ayr\u0131l\u0131yorsunuz?\u201d sorusu y\u00f6neltildi\u011finde, \u201cE\u015fimle aramda ileti\u015fimsizlik var\u201d ya da \u201cY\u00fcr\u00fcmek istedi\u011fimiz yollar farkl\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u201d gibi yan\u0131tlar al\u0131nsa, bu ki\u015fiye b\u00fcy\u00fck bir ihtimalle garipseyen bak\u0131\u015flar at\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Anne-babalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n zaman\u0131nda bir evlili\u011fin sona ermesi, ancak \u00e7ok yo\u011fun \u015fiddet, alkol-madde kullan\u0131m\u0131 gibi nedenlerin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda belki makul say\u0131labilirdi. Belki diyorum, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc toplumumuzun geneti\u011fine i\u015flemi\u015f bir \u201ckutsal evlilik\u201d imaj\u0131 var, yani insanlar sanki bo\u015fanmamak \u00fczere evlenirler \u00fclkemizde. \u201cYuva\u201dn\u0131n kutsall\u0131\u011f\u0131na vurgu yap\u0131l\u0131r ve \u00f6zellikle de \u00e7ocuk sahibi olunmu\u015fsa, mutlaka devam etmelidir evlilikler! Hele ki, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00fczerine y\u00fcklenmi\u015f ne kadar da fazla sorumluluk vard\u0131r. \u201cYuvay\u0131 di\u015fi ku\u015f yapar\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc y\u0131llarca e\u011fitimli kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00fczerinde bile bir kambur gibi yer ald\u0131. \u0130li\u015fkilerin y\u00fcr\u00fcmesinde sanki ana rol kad\u0131n\u0131nm\u0131\u015f gibi bir alg\u0131 hep mevcuttu. Kad\u0131n ve \u00f6zellikle anne olmu\u015f bir kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131 \u00fclkemizde sizce de \u015f\u00f6yle de\u011fil midir? \u201cFedakar, kendisini \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na adam\u0131\u015f, kendi bireysel ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 unutmu\u015f, e\u015fini idare edebilen, alttan alan, daha arka planda yer alan, derleyen, toparlay\u0131c\u0131 vb.\u201d Bu d\u00fczen ve kad\u0131na atfedilen, onun daha arka planda olmas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ng\u00f6ren s\u0131fatlar art\u0131k \u0130stanbul gibi b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fehirlerde ya\u015fayan e\u011fitimli, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan kad\u0131nlar d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda kabul g\u00f6rm\u00fcyor, herkes kendi kimli\u011fine daha \u00e7ok sahip \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. \u00d6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck, \u00f6zg\u00fcr hissetmek \u00e7ok \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131yor. Eskiden k\u0131rkl\u0131 ya\u015flar \u201cbir k\u00f6\u015feye \u00e7ekilme \u201c ya\u015f\u0131yken, \u015fimdi \u201cHayat k\u0131rk\u0131nda ba\u015flar\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi kabul g\u00f6r\u00fcyor. Bu ba\u011flamda bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda da, art\u0131k evlilikler de hem kad\u0131n, hem de erkek i\u00e7in, idare edilmesi, y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fclmesi zaruri bir kurum olmaktan \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Evlenen her \u00e7ift \u015f\u00fcphe yok ki, mutlu olmak i\u00e7in evlenir; hayalleri, planlar\u0131, olumlu beklentileri vard\u0131r. Ancak, ge\u00e7en zaman, iki ki\u015fiyi de farkl\u0131 etkileyebiliyor. Hem kad\u0131n, hem erkek kendi i\u00e7inde farkl\u0131la\u015fabiliyor, hayattan beklentileri, yapmak istedikleri, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce yap\u0131lar\u0131, inan\u00e7lar\u0131 de\u011fi\u015febiliyor. Bu de\u011fi\u015fim olurken, kad\u0131n ve erkek, ortak k\u00fcmeleri olan ili\u015fkilerini sabit tutup, yenilemezlerse denklemin bozuldu\u011funu, sorunlar\u0131n ba\u015f g\u00f6sterdi\u011fini g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz. Oysa ki, ili\u015fki hem duygusal hem de cinsel olarak heyecan, tutku \u00f6\u011felerini her d\u00f6nem yenilemelidir. Farkl\u0131l\u0131klar, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 s\u00fcrprizler, rutini k\u0131rmak..\u0130li\u015fkide tekd\u00fczelik bir s\u00fcredir devam ediyorsa, duygular\u0131n yo\u011fun kalmas\u0131 \u00e7ok zor bir olas\u0131l\u0131kt\u0131r. Bir evlili\u011fin devam etmesi i\u00e7in iki taraf\u0131n da duygusal ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131n, payla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131n derinli\u011finin, yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n temel belirleyiciler oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcm hep. E\u015fler ayn\u0131 anda, hem birbirlerine ba\u011fl\u0131, hem de \u00f6zg\u00fcr hissettikleri oranda mutlu ve tatminli hissederler kan\u0131mca. E\u011fer kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 bu al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f uzun bir s\u00fcredir sekteye u\u011fram\u0131\u015fsa, iki taraf da s\u0131kl\u0131kla kendisini \u00fczg\u00fcn, enerjisi al\u0131nm\u0131\u015f, \u00f6fkeli, mutsuz hissediyorsa, \u00f6ncelikle bir evlilik terapisi almak d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclebilir. Onlar\u0131 bu noktaya ta\u015f\u0131yan nedenleri bulmak ve ili\u015fkilerini istedikleri, hayal ettikleri noktaya ta\u015f\u0131mak i\u00e7in beraber, el ele verip \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabilirler. Bu \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma sonras\u0131, ili\u015fkilerini eskisinden sa\u011flam hale getirebilen \u00e7iftlerin olabildi\u011fini \u00e7ift terapisi uygulamalar\u0131ma dayanarak s\u00f6yleyebilirim. Ancak, b\u00fct\u00fcn bu \u00e7abalar\u0131n sonucunda duygular\u0131n\u0131 harekete ge\u00e7iremeyen ve yollar\u0131n\u0131n tamamen ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 noktas\u0131nda hemfikir olan \u00e7iftler de g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum. En \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmas\u0131z, kavgas\u0131z bo\u015fanmalar bile kad\u0131n ve erkek i\u00e7in zorlay\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. Neticede, bir \u201ckay\u0131p\u201d duygusu ya\u015fan\u0131r ve yas s\u00fcrecine benzer ini\u015fli \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015fl\u0131 duygular ya\u015fanabilir. Ama, bu kayb\u0131n travmatik bi\u00e7imde ya\u015fanmamas\u0131 ad\u0131na, ili\u015fkiyi onarmak i\u00e7in \u00e7aba g\u00f6sterilip sonu\u00e7 al\u0131namad\u0131ysa, anla\u015fmak ve uzla\u015fmak \u00e7iftlerin psikolojik sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00f6nemlidir. 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